Guys, I see what you're all saying, and I had the exact same thoughts when I was single. Even though I had a lot of dates with some good, wholesome women, I developed a mildly misogynistic attitude because of all the basketcases you describe here.
Now I live with a great woman who I will propose to and marry. She's one of the nicest, caring people you could ever meet--doesn't have a bad or advantageous bone in her body.
I am NOT a hugely wise person, nor am I old enough to say I've seen so much of life. So I don't want to sound like I'm some great advice giver. I just think that when a lot of dudes just completely shut out the exact types they complain about (you know, "hot women") and seriously, seriously wake the heck up and realize how many different types of women and the sheer volume of the female population that is out there, they realize that are still MANY decent, loveable women out there, including some very attractive ones.
I think that because of the worship of extraordinarily good looking women out there and the degradation of men, particularly white men, in media, and the creation of fantasies in porn, that men find themselves in seemingly powerless positions when it comes women. That's not attractive.
I also think that many men, most of whom are ordinary, waste their damn time fantasizing or trying to attract women who will not go for them, no matter how nice and caring these highly attractive women may be. It's a fucking waste of time and it makes such men look desperate. If you're a very handsome guy and/or of high social or economic status, yeah, go for 10's. If you're an ordinary looking, middle class man, go for an ordinary woman. And if you're not attractive, go for a homely woman. It makes life a lot easier, and you'll probably find love much faster.